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Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver by Bobbi Carducci Book Tour

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Title:  Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver

Author:  Bobbi Carducci
Published:  July 26th, 2014
Publisher:   Open Books Press
Genre:  Creative Non-fiction, Memoir
Recommended Age:  13+


Bobbi Carducci’s life was about to change. Her ill father-in-law’s odd behavior was a mystery when he came to live with her and Mike. For the next seven years Bobbi did everything she could to save him from himself – while he tried to convince everyone that he didn’t need her and that she was crazy.

A nonfiction that reads like a novel, Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver, is the story of a real family dealing with one of the fastest growing issues of our day. Caring for seriously ill family members at home. Meet Bobbi Carducci. Laugh, cry and pray with her as she does the hardest job she ever loved.

Every 26 seconds another person is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia in the U.S.

Excerpt from Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver:

For fifteen years I’d known him as my gentle, henpecked father-in-law. A man who longed for a little peace and quiet and always seemed eager to please. As saddened as I was by my mother-in-law’s passing, I had believed that living in my home, free from the constant yelling and criticism, he’d come out of his shell and begin to enjoy life.

Sitting in a hospital parking lot so many years later, I was just beginning to discover how very wrong I’d been.

Had he been pretending all these years? Is the real Rodger the one who announced to the nursing staff that I’m useless and no damned good? Does the medicine he takes every day allow him to be himself, or does it mask his true nature? Who is this man who lives in my house and paces the halls late at night? ..
Where did I go wrong? What did I miss and how can I make sure this doesn’t happen again? Those questions and more went unanswered as I covered the miles between the hospital and home, my mind and body too tired to cope with the guilt I felt at that moment. Despite all my good intentions, I’d let him down.
  1. Do you consider yourself a logophile? Definitely.  If so, have you always been? Ever since the magical day when the mysterious letter groups on a page became words I have been hooked on reading. I would visit the library every week and carry home as many books as they would allow me to borrow. As soon as I arrived home I’d go out on the porch and begin to read. I still read every day.
  2. What is your favorite color? Blue, the color of the sky on a summer day. It reminds me of climbing trees and swimming in the creek down the road.
  3. Where were you born? Where did you grow up? I was born in Binghamton, NY and spent most of my growing up years there. We also spent a few years in Owego, NY. That’s where the creek was and where there was wonderful trees for climbing.
  4. What is your favorite football team? I don’t have one. I’m not a fan. I often quote an uncle of mine who said, “Why don’t they give them each a ball to play with so they don’t have to fight over the one and we can all watch something else?”
  5. Who is your favorite author? Joshilyn Jackson
  6. What is your favorite book? God’s in Alabama. I love the author’s voice and the vivid characters. Plus any book with a wonderfully flawed, yet strong, woman appeals to me.
  7. What do you do when you are not writing? I start and end every day reading. I still read a newspaper in the morning and I read novels before I go to sleep. In between I write every day, teach writing workshops, and do author visits and work to market my books to reach new readers. I also watch films on Netflix when I need a break.
  8. Do you have a day job as well? I am lucky in that writing is my full time job.
  9. Do you have any advice for aspiring authors? Read, read, read, and read so more. Write when the characters speak so insistently they can’t be ignored and don’t let rejection discourage you. Rejection equals send it out again.
  10. Is being a writer a curse or a gift? Being a writer is wonderful gift. I am often delighted by the surprises the characters have in store for me. And it gives me an opportunity to let my dark side peek through on occasion. Sometimes after reading one of my quirkier pieces my husband looks at me and says, “Who are you and what have you done with my wife?”
  11. Where do you write? I have an office in my home where I do most of my writing. It’s incredibly cluttered and messy not at all like the rest of my home. I always say I’m going get it organized but I never do. I also write on slips of paper I scrounge up whenever an idea comes to me when I’m away from the house.
  12. Do you prefer silence or some noise while you write? I prefer quiet so I can hear the voices speaking to me and also so the background noise doesn’t lead me astray. A song in the background can change my mood in a way that interferes with the emotion I must experience in order to get the reader to feel it too.
  13. What do you typically drink while writing? Tea in the morning, sometimes a glass of white wine in the afternoon.
  14. What challenges have you had in regard to your writing life? The biggest challenge is self-doubt. Is it good enough? Will I ever find a publisher? Rejections feed our insecurity. I’ve learned not to let the rejections stop me but they still sting when they come.
  15. If your book is made into a movie, which actors/actresses do you envision playing the parts? I see Robert Duvall playing the part of Rodger, Diane Keaton as Bobbi, and Dustin Hoffman as Mike.
  16. How do you market your book? I am always looking for ways to market my book. Doing blog tours like this one is one of my favorite things to do. I also write for three blogs including my blog, The Imperfect Caregiver, The Caregiver Space, and I do author visits, speak to civic groups, book clubs, schools, and I leave my bookmarks and author cards wherever I go. What avenues work best? Word of mouth is the best way and that includes reviews. If someone likes my book and tells his or her friends and they then tell others sales begin to grow. Readers are why I write. When one tells me my writing touched them it means everything to me.
  17. What has been the toughest criticism so far? I submitted the first ten pages of this book to a novel beginning contest prior to sending the manuscript to publishers. One of the judges said the two main characters were unlikable. Since one of them is I and the other one is someone who meant so much to me my feelings were hurt. It’s true we had moments when were not likeable but that’s true of most of us.   What has been the best compliment? “This book moved me from tears to laughter to compassion.”
  18. Is anything in your book based on real life experiences or purely all imagination? Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver is a true story. In it I share my experience as an in-home caregiver for my father-in-law. As Rosslyn Carter said, “There are four kinds of people in this world. Caregivers, those who have been caregivers, whose who will become caregivers, and those who will need care.” It’s not a how-to book. Like everyone else in that situation I was winging it every day.
  19. How did you come up with the title? The title changed a few times. First it was Confessions of an Inadequate Caregiver, because that’s how I felt at times. But that sounded too negative. I changed it to, It Don’t Make Sense, because Rodger often said that but that title didn’t say anything what the book is about. Then the word, imperfect, popped into my head and it felt right. Everyone involved is imperfect and it’s important that I show that.
  20. Will there be a sequel? Not a direct sequel but there will be more Imperfect Caregiver books.
  21. What project are you working on now? The true story of a woman who is raising her young children and caring for a parent with Alzheimer’s disease. She is amazing and her story is about one of the thousands of people who are part of what is known as the sandwich generation.
  22. What question did I leave out that you’d like to answer? Knowing how hard it is to be an Imperfect Caregiver would you do it again? I would. I’d do it in a heartbeat. It was a gift and the hardest job I ever loved.

Please fill in the blank: Keep Calm and Dance to the Music in Your Heart

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About the Author:
Intrigued by TV doctors, Bobbi Carducci told everyone she was going to be a brain surgeon when she grew up.  When she couldn’t bring herself to cut up a frog in biology class she realized she had to find another way to get inside people’s heads and became a writer instead.

Bobbi was an in home caregiver for her serious ill father-in-law, Rodger, for seven years. Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver is the first book in a planned Caregiver series depicting the true stories of people caring for loved ones at home.

Bobbi Carducci is a former senior staff writer for the Purcellville Gazette, a small Washington, D.C. area newspaper. Her short stories appear in the Chicken Soup for the Soul and Cup of Comfort Anthologies as well is in print and online magazines.

Bobbi’s book for young readers, Storee Wryter Gets a Dog, received both a Mom’s Choice Award and a Living Now Award for Excellence. It was also named A Best Dog Book for Young Readers by Cesar Milan, The Dog Whisperer.

For three years she wrote a monthly book review column for About Families Publications before resigning to concentrate on writing Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver and her blog, The Imperfect Caregiver. Bobbi also writes regularly on care giving for and The Caregiver Space.

Giveaway Details:
There is a tour wide giveaway. Prizes include the following:

  • A print copy of Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver (US only)
  • An ecopy of  Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver (Int)

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